Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Why Some Families Avoid Church

Ah, the Weekly Church Service

A time to serve, worship, contemplate a truth-filled sermon, regain God’s peace and joy, catch up with friends. A time to refresh, recharge, reconnect…
Unfortunately, for many foster and adoptive families, the idea of attending church surfaces only feelings of anxiety, judgment and rejection.

Why? Well There’s...

  • The child who sees only a scary room packed full of loud strangers with coffee breath and intensely-colored wardrobes because he experiences sensory disorders due to past trauma 
  • The child who perceives children’s ministry drop-off as a scary separation from new parents she’s not yet learned will always come back
  • The child who is devastated by yet another rejection by peers and even adult leaders when his behaviors and abilities don’t match the norm
  • The child who hears insensitive questions and comments like “Why can’t he live with his own parents?” or “She’s so lucky you took her in!” and feels unworthy, embarrassed and angry about another invasion of privacy
  • The parents who decide church isn’t such a safe place for their child as it only brings out fear, anxiety, over-stimulation, acting-out and repeated rejection for their child
  • The parents who decide church just isn’t a safe place for their family in the wake of judgment, pity, rejection or being put on a pedestal that’s teetering dangerously close to disaster

So, How Can Support Team Members Help Create a Welcoming, Supportive Church Environment? 

  • Teach a workshop, post a web-article or provide weekly e-tips on understanding, loving and caring for foster and adoptive kids and parents. Find ideas in past Support Team Newsletters
  • Model sensitivity when speaking about foster care, adoption and the families involved
  • Build a “Buddy” program in which trained volunteers provide the supports and attention a child needs to be successful at church. If a child does not have a "Buddy," be willing to spend time with the child so the parents may attend services
  • Provide transportation for siblings to attend church services and activities when mom and dad need to remain home with a struggling child
  • Create a Sensory Room where children (and adults) with sensory disorders can worship and learn without anxiety-inducing distractions
  • Volunteer to spend time with a child so the parents may go out to lunch with friends after church
  • Provide a resource list of books, blogs and videos to help others understand the impact of trauma, grief and loss
  • Provide a family-room worship experience. This could be a video-feed into a family-friendly room at church or joining the family for a live-stream of the service into their own family room

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

TBRI Workshop at Holt-Sunnyridge

Early Registration is now open for our TBRI® Workshops!

EXCITING NEWS! TBRI ® early registration is now open for all 4 workshops! Dates for the workshops are: 
September 19: Introduction and Overview
October 17: Connecting
November 14: Empowering
December 12: Correcting

Only 30 spots available per workshop or module!

Developed by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross at the TCU Institute of Child Development, Trust-Based Relational Interventions® (TBRI®) is an emerging intervention model for a wide range of childhood behavioral problems. TBRI® is based on a solid foundation of neuropsychological theory and research, tempered by humanitarian principles.

It is a family-based intervention that is designed for children who have experienced relationship-based traumas such as:

*Multiple foster placements

For the past ten years, Drs. Purvis and Cross have been implementing and evaluating TBRI®, and their strategies have proven extremely effective in creating healing environments for children who have come from "hard places."

The parent workshops will be led by Pam Shepard, LCSW and Supervisor of Post Adoption Services at Holt-Sunny Ridge Children's Services.  Pam trained under Dr. Purvis and Dr. Cross in Texas and is a TBRI ® Educator. Co-leading with Pam will be Shelly Roy from the University of Chicago Adoption Center. She is an LCSW, TBRI ® Educator and adoptive parent.

Register for the upcoming series by clicking below:

IL License #529708

Friday, July 17, 2015

Safe Families Volunteer Training at Willow Creek

Safe Families for Children and Willow Creek Community Church Present:
The Greater Chicago Volunteer Training Day
Saturday, July 18, 2015

Prospective Safe Families, you're invited to a live, accelerated Comprehensive Training Session. 

Offered as an alternative to online training, this event is designed to equip you to welcome a child into your home (Host Family) or support a host or placing parent (Family Friend) and move you through the training process efficiently. The live Comprehensive Training Session includes everything you need to become a certified Safe Family Volunteer—all in one place. 
  • Start or submit your application
  • Get fingerprints taken for the background check
  • Complete your training hours
  • Meet like-minded families who will support you

The training will be in two parts.  The first two hours will be for all volunteers.  The second two hours will be for Host Families.  So, anyone interested in being a Family Friend only needs to stay for the first two hours.  Host Families need to stay for the whole training.

Doors open at 8:30 AM for those who need to start an application, schedule a home study, start a background check, or ask one-on-one questions.  The training session begins at 9:00 AM sharp.  The training will be held at the So. Barrington Campus in room B207.

A light breakfast and lunch will be provided. There will also be a variety of special giveaways throughout the training session you won't want to miss!

Free Parking is available.  

Reserve your spot today! We look forward to seeing you on July 18th to equip and encourage you in your journey.

If you have further questions please contact Sarah Mohr, 773-653-2222, or smohr@safefamilies.net    www.safe-families.org

Have questions about Live Host Family Training Day - Willow Creek Community Church? Contact the organizer

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Adoptee Reading Resource

 Adoptee Reading Resource

Adoptee Reading Resource is a new site designed to catalog and promote books written by adoptees and other adoption-related books recommended by adoptees.

A blogger, an adoptee and an editor and columnist for Lost Daughters, Karen Pickell created Adoptee Reading Resource to be the go-to site for books of interest to adopted people.

Karen Pickell
"First and foremost, we feature books written by adoptees themselves. Many of these are about adoption, but adoptees are also writing great books that have nothing obviously to do with adoption in any way. We list these titles as well, because we believe adoptees have a unique perspective on life in general. We also link to reviews written by adult adoptees for every title for which we can find them. We do this because we believe adoptees are the best authority on the relevance of any book for adoptees."

To learn more about materials written and reviewed by adoptees, please visit adopteereading.com.

Monday, July 13, 2015

Wednesday, July 22  |  1:00 PM (Central)
"Replicable Models of Transition to Family-Based Care" 
A growing number of CAFO organizations are pioneering new models that transition children from orphanages into family-based care.   Join us for a live discussion between three of these innovators and CAFO President Jedd Medefind. 

Presenters include:
Randy Daniels, Buckner International 
Rebecca Nhep, ACCInternational
Emily Heger, Akola Project 

The Christian Alliance for Orphans Webinar Series is designed to help individuals like you create and grow effective adoption, foster care and global orphan ministry in local churches.  Each 60-minute webinar is free and will give local advocates access to the knowledge and experience of top Alliance member churches and organizations nationwide.

Thursday, July 9, 2015

Fundraiser for CASA of McHenry County

The Service League of Crystal Lake invites you to a unique Farm to Table Experience. Some of the proceeds from this event will benefit CASA of McHenry County. For tickets please contact Laura Mills at dlmills5@aol.com or 815-893-0318.