Wednesday, September 27, 2017

What to Pack for an Out-of-State Adoption


When pursuing domestic infant adoption, it is not unusual for your child to be born in a different state than the one in which you live. Therefore, oftentimes adoptive parents find themselves traveling out-of-state to bring home their bundle of joy. As an adoption consultant, I get many questions about what adoptive parents should bring on their out-of-state journey and what items really aren’t necessary. Here are some key tips to help with your packing.

Pack to Stay for Awhile
The first thing you need to know when you are packing for adopting a baby out-of-state is that you will be staying there for a while. You will not be heading straight home after gaining custody of the baby at the hospital. There are many legal maneuverings with interstate adoption and one of them is the ICPC (Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children). The ICPC involves paperwork that needs to be completed and filed with both the state in which the baby is born and your home state. Only after both states approve it are you legally allowed to take the baby home. This usually occurs sometime between 2 and 15 business days after the baby is discharged from the hospital.

Comfort First

When you are packing for picking up baby, you want to put comfort first for everyone. If it’s important to you, pack nice outfits for the precious memories you are going to photograph when you first meet the baby and/or when you leave the hospital. Besides that, focus on comfort. Sweatpants, yoga pants and comfy t-shirts are all you are going to want to wear as you adjust to your baby’s schedule and try to catch some sleep whenever you can.

Of course, you also want to think of your baby’s comfort. Since you will be spending some time in temporary housing (a hotel room, a friend’s home or an AirBnB), you want your baby to have the same comforts he or she would have at home. Pack a swaddle blanket that is soft yet breathable. You can also consider a bassinet or foldable Pack ‘n Play but check first if your hotel has one to rent or if your AirBnB host has one available. It is also sweet to bring a special newborn-safe stuffed animal for your baby to cuddle with.

Lastly, since you will be staying for a while, choose accommodations that have plenty of space and convenience. For instance, select a suite with a kitchenette including a microwave, sink, and refrigerator. Also consider a unit with a living room area so you and your partner can take turns caring for the baby at night in a separate space while the other one rests. AirBnB or HomeAway are great options that can provide you with plenty of space for less cost than a hotel room. If you explain your situation to the host, they’re often willing to be flexible with your unknown arrival and departure dates.

Baby Essentials

Since you won’t be bringing your baby directly home, you need to pack the baby essentials to care for your newborn while you are away. Of course the first thing you need is a car seat as no hospital will allow you to leave with the baby without one. You can either pack it and take it with you, buy one at your destination, or pre-order from a national chain and pick it up at your destination. Some other essentials that you will need include:

Baby bottles (you should hold off on formula until you know which brand the hospital is using)
Baby clothes (a few onesies and t-shirts will do)
Laundry detergent for babies or for sensitive skin
Blankets (soft swaddlers)
Diapers and wipes
Disposable trash bags for diapers
Changing pad
Diaper bag
Pacifiers (even if you don’t intend to use them, they’re good to have on hand as you never know if you might change your mind)
Burp clothes and washcloths
Bottle dish soap and drying rack
Stroller (this isn’t absolutely necessary but you’re going to want to go out rather than stay in a hotel room all the time. I suggest a lightweight foldable stroller frame into which you can just snap the car seat.)

Paperwork Organization
It is very important that you bring all relevant adoption paperwork with you and keep it organized. If you are traveling by plane, keep your paperwork with you in your carry-on so there is no risk of it being lost. It is also a good idea to make extra copies of important documents and to store digital versions in the cloud for easy access in case anything happens to your hard copies.

Adopting a baby from another state can seem overwhelming but being open to that option can be what leads you to your baby. With a little preparation, some savvy packing, and a healthy dose of patience, the out-of-state travel can go very smoothly. Once you’re back home, the hassle of traveling will quickly become a distant memory as you focus on the joy of life with your new child.



Written by Nicole Witt, owner of The Adoption Consultancy (www.TheAdoptionConsultancy.com), an unbiased resource serving pre-adoptive families by providing them with the education, information and guidance they need to safely adopt a newborn, usually within three to 12 months.

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Empowered to Connect Conference!



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Bringing Hope and Healing to Families

Show Hope is partnering with Empowered to Connect to present the Empowered to Connect Conference on April 13-14, 2018, in the Chicagoland area. Come experience practical teaching in a safe and supportive community as we work to equip families, churches, and professionals to better serve children impacted by adoption and foster care.

There will be several simulcast locations in the Chicagoland area.  Each day's sessions will run from 9am-5pm (check-in opens at 8am), with a one hour offsite lunch.

The Empowered to Connect Conference features Trust-Based Relational InterventionⓇ methods developed by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross from the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development to help bring attachment and connection in families. The content is ideal for adoptive and foster parents, those considering adoption or foster care, and those who are serving and supporting others, including social workers, agency professionals, church staff and ministry leaders, counselors and therapists, childcare providers, and extended family members.
Find more information about the conference here >

For inquiries regarding the Empowered to Connect Conference, please contact 615-550-5600 ext. 116.  If seating is available, tickets may be purchased at the door.


CHILDCARE: Please note that childcare will NOT be provided at this event.  Please make arrangements off-site for childcare.

CONTINUING EDUCATION: This program has previously been approved by the National Association of Social Workers and the National Board for Certified Counselors for 11 continuing education contact hours. Approval for the 2018 event is pending.


Have questions about Empowered to Connect Conference 2018- Chicago Metro? Contact Show Hope

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Adoption Information Meetings




Adoption Information meetings
Learn about our programs and services at a free orientation. Please call 708.385.4889 to RSVP.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Walk for Adoption!



Don't miss your opportunity to register for the 2017 Walk for Adoption Chicago and get a t-shirt included!

Registration for the 2017 Walk for Adoption Chicago including a T-shirt is ending soon!

When you register by September 12th, your Registration Fee includes the following:
AUTHENTIC Walk for Adoption Chicago T-shirt
Snacks and Lunch
Children's Activities
Access to Adoption Professionals
Fun and Games

Don't wait - the registration fee goes up starting September 13th 
and does not include a T-shirt.

For more information about Walk for Adoption Chicago, please visit our website. Check out our sponsors, Walk day activities and much more.

Monday, September 11, 2017

Foster Care Dialogue @ Allendale








 Foster Parent Rights and Responsibilities 
Implementation Plan Dialogue
 
 
Thursday, September 21st
6:30 – 8:30 pm
Allendale Association
 600 W Grand Ave, Lake Villa, IL 60046

Cheryl Stenzel, Ph.D., Director of Clinical and Community Services at Allendale, will facilitate a discussion on how the agency supports foster parents in their Rights and Responsibilities. This is an opportunity to be informed, ask questions and share input about the 2018 Foster Parent Law Implementation Plan.


Register for the training by calling Tammy Goodwin or Keri Beyer at Bradley Counseling Center, 847-356-3322 or tggodwin@allendale4kids.org and Kbeyer@allendale4kids.org.