Wednesday, July 24, 2013

"Why Not A Family?" Video

 
Why Not a Family? Video about orphans, orphanages, and better options for children

Why Not a Family? (2013) (Video/DVD)

This 20-minute video was produced in Cambodia and release in 2013. It’s a great introduction to family-based care and the problems with raising children in orphanages. Go to http://unitingforchildren.org to watch and download the video for free and/or request one or more copies on DVD.  You will also find links for Korean, Japanese, and French subtitled versions.
 
While you’re watching take a moment and share the video with others by Facebook or email. The video was produced and directed by Andy Gray, the editor of Uniting for Children, with limited funding from M’lup Russey in Cambodia.  
 
You will also find other videos and articles at http://unitingforchildren.org.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Post-Adoption Newsletter




CCAI’s Post Adoption Department has a fabulous newsletter that you can subscribe to.  Just contact them at postadoption@ccaifamily.org, or call at (303) 850-9998 ex. 22 and ask to be added to their monthly e-mail newsletter.  If you are an adoptive parent, I hope you'll take advantage of this great resources!

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Christian Alliance for Orphans Summit 9: Recordings now available!

RECORDINGS NOW AVAILABLE! 

Did you miss Summit?  
A great conversation made you miss a workshop? 
Seeking resources for your church adoption, foster & orphan ministry?

Purchase & download your audio recordings online HERE.
 
 
           

Monday, July 15, 2013

Orphan Sunday Planning Kicks Off Today!


 
 
 
It all starts today...
ORPHAN SUNDAY
November 3, 2013

Orphan Sunday continues to grow across the U.S. and worldwide. Each Orphan Sunday event is led by people committed to the Gospel and the orphan: from sermons and Sunday School to student fundraisers and foster recruiting. The ultimate goal: to call Christians to make the Gospel visible in adoption, foster care and global orphan ministry.
 
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Saturday, July 13, 2013

Safe Families National Conference

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Safe Families for Children    
July  2013
For questions: email danderson@lydiahome.org


 
 
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There is less than one month until the National Conference.  If you haven't registered yet, please do so right away.
Learn how you and your church can Share Space and Show Love with families that are experiencing crisis.
Big News: Free Child Care will be provided through 6th grade for both evening sessions.  You will need to reserve a space for your child.

Free housing can be available in host family homes if needed. Contact smohr@lydiahome.org.
August 6th Celebration: FREE (Space is limited!)
August 7th Conference: $57.00 per person (Lunch and Dinner included)
Address: Willow Creek North Shore, 315 Waukegan Road, Northfield, Illinois. Click Here for our easy online registration!  Questions? Contact Sarah Mohr by email or call (773) 653-2222
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Highlights:
  • Shane Claiborne- International speaker and social activist
  • Commissioner BJ Walker- National Child Welfare Expert
  • Steve and Marsha King - Breakthrough Leadership
  • Sir Peter Vardy - Philanthropist and UK Businessman 
  • Affinity Groups - Opportunity to meet with others from around the country to share ideas on various cutting edge topics 
  •  Chicago's Best Pizza - Lou Malnati's
  •  Discounted tickets for Willow Creek's Global Leadership Summit with Safe Family registration. For more information about the summit click here  www.willowcreek.com.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

"Given Our Chance" Documentary to be released this month

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The documentary trailer for "Given Our Chance" has been released.   Alex King of A.K. Film Production and Editing, and Izidor Ruckel of Abandoned for Life/Ruckel International, are happy to announce their documentary trailer.

Click here to see the trailer. 

      San Francisco, CA, November 15, 2012 --(PR.com)-- Romanian Adoptees Alex King and Izidor Ruckel have begun filming on their new documentary, "Given Our Chance".

Alex King, the award winning filmmaker and director and editor of "Born To Be Our Children, Romanian Adoption Stories" has joined forces with Izidor Ruckel author of "Abandoned for Life" and public speaker.

Alex King is a San Francisco Bay Area resident who has received numerous awards for his Filmmaking. Among those awards are a Gold Remi at the Houston Worldfest for Film and Video Production on his documentary "Born To Be Our Children", as well as a Rising Star Award for the same documentary at the Canada International Film Festival in Vancouver, BC. Alex has completed films for NASA CIPAIR Project at Canada College, Phi Theta Kappa and The Blind Judo Foundation to name a few. Alex was also honored to win the Shelly Fay Memorial Videography Scholarship from the National Academy of Television Arts and Science, San Francisco/Northern California for his film work which aired on KCSM. Alex was adopted in 1994 from a Romanian orphanage when he was almost six years old.

Izidor Ruckel, who resides in Colorado, authored his biography "Abandoned For Life” in 2003. It is his incredible story of growing up as a Romanian orphan who was hidden from the world. In his own words he describes his life in the orphanage. Izidor is not only a gifted public speaker he is an advocate for adoption. After the Romanian Revolution in 1989, the show 20/20 went into Romania and did a number of shows on the orphan situation. In one of their broadcasts, titled “Take Me To America”, Izidor is one of the children that was seen by the world. From that show, Izidor would be adopted by a couple in California in 1991. Izidor holds down two jobs and still finds time to speak about his book and his life in many venues, from Adoption symposiums to College campuses to

Romanian fundraisers. Izidor was adopted from a Romanian orphanage when he was ten years old.

Alex and Izidor were connected by their passion for helping Romanian orphans. Alex read Izidor's book, and Izidor watched Alex's documentary. The two decided that they should join forces to get their story out in hopes of both advocating for adoption, both domestic and international, as well as trying to help those children left behind in Romania. They spoke over the phone for months, and finally met this October.

Alex and Izidor are grateful for being adopted and being given their chance, now they are hoping to make a difference in the world with their documentary.

Alex and Izidor have created a Facebook and Twitter page for the public to follow them on their filming journey. For more information on both Alex and Izidor, or to purchase either Alex’s documentary or Izidors book, please visit their websites, www.akingproduction.com and www.abandonedforlife.com or www.ruckelinternational.com.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

How Common is Reactive Attachment Disorder?

 The article below is taken from the "Parenting. Adoption. Adoption Parenting." blog. (http://gobbelcounseling.wordpress.com/). 

 

How Common is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)?

June 28, 2013

Last September, my colleague Suzette Lamb, LPC-S and I sat at the Irving Convention Center in Irving, TX listening to Daniel Siegel, MD, a pioneer in the field of Interpersonal Neurobiology. Dr. Siegel’s work has been instrumental in my understanding and conceptualization of attachment – as well as trauma, memory integration, and affect regulation. To say that Suzette and I were excited to be in Irving would be a gross understatement! I took copious amounts of notes, typing as fast as I could. At one point in the lecture, Suzette and I stopped and turned to each other. She tilted her legal pad in my direction and used her pen to point to the exact same phrase I had also just typed out. “Reactive Attachment Disorder is extremely rare.”

Why does the Diagnosis Matter?
One of the primary purposes of assessment and diagnosis is to inform clinical treatment. The treatment for depression is different than the treatment for schizophrenia. The treatment for anxiety is different than the treatment for ADHD. Proper diagnosis assists the clinician in determining the appropriate course of treatment. Keeping this in mind, it is much more helpful to assess a child’s attachment patterns while concurrently considering the impact of early trauma as opposed to labeling a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder. These two pieces of information- attachment patterns and the impact of early trauma- are more powerful pieces of information than a label of Reactive Attachment Disorder when determining how to help a child heal. (Heal trauma, heal attachment, heal trauma, heal attachment…repeat).
Reactive Attachment Disorder could not exist without early relationship trauma. Unfortunately, when a child is diagnosed with RAD, it is easy to lose sight of the child’s tragic beginnings, focusing instead on the current maladaptive behaviors that led to the diagnosis. Reactive Attachment Disorder has become a description of the child. It has come to be synonymous with “hopeless,” “unable to attach,” and even “sociopathic.” It is talked about as if the child merely chooses not to attach. Although I doubt this was the intention when RAD first made its way into the DSM, it is the unfortunate outcome. RAD has become a diagnosis that is all-too-quickly suggested for any child with a history of attachment trauma. The most serious negative impact of this diagnosis that I have seen is how it shifts a parent and professional’s view of the child away from the trauma.
Disorganized Attachment Pattern
Attachment patterns develop between a child and their caregiver. The ideal attachment pattern is a secure attachment. There are three types of insecure attachment: anxious/ambivalent, avoidant, and disorganized. The child with a disorganized attachment pattern is stuck in the unsolvable dilemma of being terrified of their attachment figure. One part of their nervous system protects them from danger and screams “RUN!! GO AWAY!” while simultaneously another part of their nervous system compels them to seek safety and proximity from their primary attachment figure. The disorganized child cannot solve this contradiction- to be compelled both toward and away from the same person- and the result is a disorganized attachment; there is no solution or adaptation possible for the child.
Rather than asking yourself “Does my child have Reactive Attachment Disorder” it is more helpful to ask yourself what style of attachment your child demonstrates. If your child experienced abuse or neglect, he likely has a disorganized pattern (85% of children who experience abuse or neglect develop a disorganized attachment pattern) (Dan Siegel, MD).
Impact of Trauma
The second thing to consider when doing assessment and treatment planning for a child with early developmental trauma is “How was my child’s brain and nervous system impacted by trauma?” “What current behavioral problems are the result of early trauma being triggered?” “What is the PURPOSE of my child’s behaviors when I consider how that behavior served them during the trauma?”
Reframing the child’s behaviors helps us find our empathy. Understanding the origins of their behavior helps us know where to begin with trauma resolution, linking up those implicit and explicit memories. These ‘stuck’ memories and a dysregulated nervous system (due to trauma and neglect) are what is contributing to the behaviors commonly associated with RAD. Instead of asking ourselves WHY our children cannot let go of these maladaptive behaviors, we should ask ourselves when this behavior was adaptive.
I agree with Dr. Siegel that RAD is extremely rare, much more rare than is currently diagnosed. Regardless of the accuracy of the diagnosis, consider your child’s attachment pattern (is it disorganized?) along with their history of early trauma. You may find that this is more helpful information to consider than a diagnosis of Reactive Attachment Disorder.
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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW is a child and family therapist in Austin, Texas specializing in adoption, trauma, and attachment counseling. She is the founder of the Central Texas Attachment & Trauma Center.

Thursday, July 4, 2013

Webinar: When Kids Start Asking Questions About Adoption

 
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Can We Talk? When Kids Start Asking Questions About Adoption
 
 
New Webinar!

 
In the car...in the kitchen...at bedtime...it can happen when you least expect it - your child asks you a question about adoption and you don’t know how to answer it. As much as you prepared for this, when it actually happens it can be very difficult.
 
Maybe you haven’t talked about adoption yet, the answer is tough to hear or you just don’t have enough information to answer your child’s questions. But your answer matters. Talking matters.
 
Join us for a webinar featuring Pat Irwin Johnston, author and adoptive parent as she discusses:
  • Common questions kids start asking and when
  • How and when to share the tough stuff
  • Answering questions with limited information
 
 
 
Submit your questions to our panel here 

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Consider "Special Needs" Adoption from China

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Has someone in your life recently considered adoption? If so, you should know more about the China Waiting Child Adoption Program at Sunny Ridge Family Center. Sunny Ridge has the privilege of finding families for children from China with varying degrees of special medical needs. See more in this video.

The Term "Special Needs"

Most people believe that when they adopt a child with "special needs" they will have no control over the types of medical issues a child may have. The truth is, families decide the types of "special needs" they are comfortable in handling. Also, in the case of this program, the term "special needs" is used to define a wide variety of of medical needs, including very minor, correctable medical needs to more involved needs. Some children are available for adoption through the program simply because of their age! Children range in age from one year of age to 13 years old, with healthy children over the age of eight also available. Both boys and girls are in need of a family.

Why Are Children Available?

Children are in need of a family for a variety of reasons. Some are available because of the social stigma of having a physical disability and the lack of affordable health care treatments. Often more boys are available in the China Waiting Child Adoption Program due to China’s belief that more families would want to adopt boys, leading to more boys being made available. However, adoptive families in the United States tend to have a preference for girls. This means that little boys in this program can often wait twice as long for a family.

Want To Learn More?

Just starting out? Many questions can be answered immediately on the Sunny Ridge website. You can also learn more about our China Waiting Child Adoption Program at one of our free Adoption Information Meetings held at Sunny Ridge Family Center in Bolingbrook. Upcoming meeting dates:
Monday, July 8, 2013, 7:00pm
Monday, September 9, 2013, 7:00pm
Monday, November 4, 2013, 7:00pm
If you have questions or would like more information, please contact:
Jessica Augsburger, MSW/LCSW
China Waiting Child Program Coordinator
270 Remington Boulevard, Suite C
Bolingbrook, Illinois USA 60440

Direct: (630) 754-4532

Monday, July 1, 2013

Empowered to Connect Conference in Houston, TX

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    Register for the Houston ETC Conference Today!

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    ETC Conference

    Early bird pricing is still available for the Houston Empowered To Connect Conference, hosted by Show Hope and featuring Dr. Karyn Purvis. Register today to attend this two-day conference for an incredibly low price!

    The Houston ETC Conference will be held on Friday & Saturday, September 13-14, at Houston’s First Baptist Church.

    Registration for the Houston conference is open! In fact, the early bird rate of only $35 per individual or $50 per couple is still available through July 12! In addition, for a limited time you can register for 1/2 off due to a generous grant from Focus on the Family. Simply use the code FOCUS when registering online to receive this discount. This additional discount is only available for a limited number of registrations, so be sure to register today at www.etcconference.org.
     
    Training certificates for foster/adoptive parents as well as CEU credits for social workers are available for those attending the ETC Conference.

    Help us spread the word about this great opportunity for parents, professionals, and ministry leaders alike to find help and hope!