ECT Parent to Parent Training in TBRI

Parent to Parent Training in TBRI®
for Adoptive / Foster/SAFE families
 

Learn how to effectively and consistently employ a balanced parenting approach that allows you to provide compassionate discipline that connects with your child’s heart 

and corrects inappropriate behaviors.
 

COMING TO
LIVING HOPE CHURCH, Elk Grove Village
(SCHAUMBURG/ WOODFIELD AREA)

MONDAY EVENINGS
7pm- 9pm
Jan 15, 22, 29
Feb 5, 12, 19, 26
Mar 5, 12

ETC Parent training is offered by Steve and Cheryl Pickett for families in the Chicagoland area. For more information about the training visit http://www.empoweredtoconnect.org/training or contact trainers at etc@scpickett.com.  List of required resource books and materials available upon request. Childcare not provided.  

Register at etc@scpickett.com.

Cost: $25 (additional resource material will be required for purchase or borrow)

Adoptive Family Camp Featuring TBRI!

Journey of Hope Adoptive Family Camp - Apply by March 31st!

This summer, Holt-Sunny Ridge will be hosting our first Journey of Hope summer camp for domestic and international adoptees and their families. This three-day camp is designed around the Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI)® parenting curriculum for adoptees and their families. Even years after their adoption, some children may struggle with behavior regulation, attachment and social skills. This camp will equip families with tools and strategies they can use to help their child learn self-regulation skills and deepen family attachment. Parents will also receive specialized TBRI training.  Other activities include fun sensory games, art and equine therapy. When: Friday, June 23 – Sunday, June 25, 2017 | 9:00 a.m. – 3:30 p.m. Where: The Ranch of Hope Reins Equine Camp in Hampshire, IL Cost: $350 per family or $450 for a family with more than one child Requirements to Attend: Attending families must have both parents attend all 3 days For families who want to register siblings, both children must meet the requirements. If one does not, then childcare arrangements will need to be made for the sibling that is not eligible. Child(ren) must have been home for at least 1 year, and be between 7 to 11 years old. Please see flyer for more details before you apply. Only ten spots are available for this pilot camp and applications are due by  March 31, 2017. So apply now!

Download Application Here

 Questions? Contact Pam at pams@holtsunnyridge.org

Teaching TBRI Concepts Through Books

If you have attended a TBRI ® — or Trust-Based Relational Intervention — training, you are familiar with these phrases: re-do, asking or telling, accepting no, and compromise or negotiate.  Social worker Cindy R. Lee has written several children’s books using these important concepts or life scripts as the main storyline.  As a therapist who works with kids who come from hard places, I find these books extremely helpful in communicating some of these important messages to young children.  You can order the books on Amazon.  Here are some of the titles:

“The Redo Roo”
“Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo”
“The Penguin and the Fine Looking Fish”
“Doggie Doesn’t Know ‘No’!”
“It’s Tough to be Gentle; A Dragon’s Tale”

Each of the books provides a two-page explanation of the TBRI ® concept, technique or strategy that the story is about.  They also provide teaching tips for parents and colorful illustrations for the kids!

Pam Shepard | LCSW, Supervisor of Clinical Services, Holt-Sunnyridge.

To learn more about the TBRI model of intervention, click here.

Asking "What Do You Need?"

What Do You Need?

 By: Colleen Derksen

I took the kids camping all by myself this summer. Actually, a friend was there with her kids, and we were at a campsite in a town, but still… Anytime I tackle something like that without Brian, I’m going to consider it a major accomplishment!

Anyway, the first night was a little rough. One of the boys was taking a long time to settle down, and I was starting to panic. I still had a bit of unpacking to do and I was already dreading the early wake-up I knew I’d have to face the next morning. In an effort to practice trust-based parenting, I kept asking my son, “What do you need?” Every time I asked, he would reply, “Exercise!” and start bouncing around. At this point, my trust-based parenting skills fell apart, because I would then say, “No, you don’t. You need sleep. Now settle down and close your eyes.” We must have had this exchange half a dozen times, and both of us were getting frustrated. 

Meanwhile, I was also texting Brian, hoping he would have some wisdom and perspective for me. When I mentioned that our son was claiming to need exercise, he texted back with, “So why don’t you let him go outside for 5 minutes?” Exasperated, but willing to try anything, I asked if he wanted to help me unload the cooler contents into the fridge. He jumped at the chance (literally) and within 10 minutes the work was done. Within another 10 minutes, he was asleep. Why did I argue with him for so long?

We teach the importance of meeting our kids’ needs as part of the ETC parent training. We discuss how crucial it is to faithfully meet their needs if we want to build trust, and we encourage parents to give joyful yeses whenever they can. We highlight the fact that “What do you need?” is a much more helpful and productive question than “What do you want?” or “What’s wrong with you?”

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Balancing Structure & Nurture Workshop

 

Join us this month for our workshop

Balancing Structure and Nurture

August 26, 2015

7:30 PM – 8:45 PM

Willow Creek Community Church

67 E. Algonquin Road, So. Barrington, IL

Room B207

Parenting is tough for everyone. Everyone has opinions, suggestions and advice even when it isn’t asked for! Parenting children who come from hard places brings different parenting struggles. For example, it’s understandably frustrating when John (age 8) reacts and responds to any type of correction by throwing himself on the floor and having a meltdown for an hour that looks more like what a 3 year old might do. 

The “Balancing Structure and Nurture Workshop” draws from several different concepts taught in both TBRI ® (Trust Based Relational Intervention) and Theraplay ®. These parenting interventions and therapy models have helped kids like John tremendously by teaching parents how to help their kids regulate their emotions and behaviors.

Our guest speaker is Pam Shepard, LCSW, Supervisor of Post Adoption Services at Holt-Sunnyridge Children’s Services. Pam is a licensed clinical social worker extensively trained to provide therapy for adopted children, teens, adult adoptees, adoptive parents and families. Pam has been trained in Theraplay®, Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, and Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI). She sees clients for individual, family, and group therapy. Pam has worked in the field of child welfare since 1996.

**Registration for this event is not required.

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