Ignoring The Call

The following post is taken from a family blog (http://bethhaut.blogspot.org). It think it deserves some consideration.

Somebody said something to me yesterday, and it has troubled me ever since. Last week I emailed our church congregation about a need for people to help watch children so that foster parents could acquire the required training hours to maintain their foster care licenses. I asked for a few people to volunteer just 2 hours a month (and not every month). One response. I got just one response from a congregation of 200 families.

Now, I realize that people are busy. I am busy. I realize people may not have read the email... often times I don't read email from the church. But what bothered me was the comment. I was told, "Well, that means people aren't called to do that kind of work."

I wanted to debate the comment, but the topic got changed and I didn't feel it was worth disputing at that point. But here I sit, still steaming. (Not at the person who made the comment, but by the state of the Christian church). I know most of you are thinking, "Oh, no, here she goes again." And if you want to put your head in the sand and stop reading, that is totally fine.

The simple fact is CHRISTIANS ARE CALLED to care for THE FATHERLESS and WIDOWS.

James 1:27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.

It bothers me that godly people can so easily say, "I'm not called to that." It is essentially a quick fix to get out of something and sound holy at the same time. I am not saying everyone I ask should volunteer to help with some minimal childcare so that orphans in our community can be cared for... but I am saying that the statement of "I'm not called" doesn't give you some sort of doctor's note to present to God when he asks what you did for the orphans in His name.

How many people say, "I'm not called," without actually asking God if they are called? It is so often a knee jerk reaction to get out of something that is hard, or not even hard so much as an inconvenience. It's not that challenging to help watch children for two hours, but it may throw a wrench in ones TV watching that evening, or it may mean they have to spend a little extra time driving across town and back.

If people are not called to help, does that mean God is leaving the orphans in our community to fend for themselves? The one who calls Himself "The Father of the Fatherless?" Yes, maybe God forgot to call His church to help... or, not.

Isaiah 1:17 Learn to do good; seek justice, reprove the ruthless, Defend the orphan, plead for the widow.

Haiti Orphan Relief Team

The Haiti Orphan Relief Team (HORT) is an amazing collaboration of disaster response experts and U.S. based orphan care and advocacy organizations. The goal of HORT is to identify, train and resource Haitian churches to be the direct rescue and care mechanism for Haiti's hundreds of thousands of orphans. This is truly the most effective and scalable response to a need of such great complexity and magnitude. The primary goal is to better enable Haitian churches to reunite or keep children within extended family structures. For children that have no other options, HORT will help Haitian churches to provide direct care in home environments, not institutional orphanages. U.S. churches are also part of the solution and are being recruited by HORT to come alongside these Haitian churches in church-to-church partnerships to initiate, strengthen and grow their outreach to orphans in their immediate communities. These partnerships will also work towards the self-sustainability of the orphan rescue and care efforts in Haiti.

For more information how you and your church can become involved, visit http://haitiorphanreliefteam.blogspot.com.

Partnering Organizations:
Christian Alliance for Orphans
Together For Adoption
Hope for Orphans, a ministry of FamilyLife
World Orphans
University of North Carolina School of Public Health
Sweet Sleep
Orphan Lifeline
Loving Shepherd Ministries
Love Haiti
Global Aid Network (GAiN), a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ
Lifesong for Orphans

Call to Action: Families for Orphans Act

On January 12 in the course of only 30 seconds, thousands of children joined the hundreds of thousands Haitian children already living without a permanent and safe family. These children became part of a global crisis – an estimated 30 million children growing up without parents - vulnerable to slavery, prostitution, gangs, exploitation, and trafficking. Yet our government has no focus on finding families for orphaned children worldwide. We should have acted yesterday…we must act now.

The Senate Foreign Relations Committee and the House Foreign Affairs Committee have before them The Families for Orphans Act; a bi-partisan bill that would create a State Department office and more importantly a “Champion for Orphans”. This Champion and the Office would build capacity in countries to enable families to raise their children at home or be adopted by loving parents first in their own country or else in another. Growing up in a family is a basic human right. The United States has a rich and successful history of protecting such rights all over the world. When we have stepped forward to provide leadership in an area of great social need, the difference has been measurable. The orphans of the world need this type of leadership and they need it now.

Four Things You Can Do:

1. Let Your Voice Be Heard: Call or e-mail to your Members of Congress asking them to become Co-Sponsors of the Families for Orphans Act. You can find your Representative at http://tracking.etapestry.com/t/11633911/426412394/53557487/0/ and your Senators at http://tracking.etapestry.com/t/11633911/426412394/53558528/0/. Feel free to use the following text as a guideline:“As one of your constituents I am requesting that you support the “Families for Orphans Act” by becoming a Co-Sponsor of the legislation now. We would be better prepared to respond to the needs of orphans in Haiti if the leadership it calls for was already in place. We ask that you stand up for the millions of children around the world growing up in orphanages without the love and support of a permanent family. For information on becoming a Co-Sponsor, please contact Senators Landrieu or Inhofe or Representatives Watson or Boozman.”

2. Demand Action: Call or email the Senate Foreign Relations Committee and the House Foreign Affairs Committee. Ask them to pass the Families for Orphans Act. Senate Foreign Relations Committee Phone: (202) 224-4651 Chairperson’s Email: click here House Foreign Affairs Committee Phone: (202) 224-4651 Chairperson’s Email: click here

3. Speak with One Voice: Sign the Families for Orphans Act petition. To sign click here.

4. Get The Word Out: Have a blog? A Facebook page? Do you Tweet? How about an email account? Send this Call To Action to those who care about children.

On behalf of children living without a permanent and safe family


Rebecca Harris
Government Relations and Communications Manager

The Families For Orphans Coalition
Buckner International
EACH International
Joint Council on International Children's Services
Institute for Orphan Advocacy
Institute for Human Services
Kidsave International
National Council for Adoption
Worldwide Orphan Foundation

Families for Orphans Act

The Need

UNICEF estimates that there are 132 million orphans in the world today. Millions of these orphans are growing up on the streets or in institutions where they don't receive the love, attention, education or medical care they need to develop into healthy, productive adults. The evidence shows that placing an orphaned child into a permanent and loving family is perhaps the best way to ensure that they have the love, attention, and care needed not only to survive, but to thrive. While the United States Government has several programs that offer support for the urgent physical needs of orphans, very little of the focus and funding is going toward finding permanent families for children in need of parental care. At the same time, developing countries lack the resources and expertise necessary to develop sound systems to provide for the care of the rising number of orphaned children.

A review of current federal programs suggests that there are at least three barriers standing in the way of the United States being a leader in providing a family for every child. First, current U.S. funded orphans programs are disorganized and disconnected, neglect the needs of millions of children, and impose a wide variety of different policies and priorities, creating in some cases mutually exclusive strategies. Secondly, officers working to address the needs of orphans lack the authority, visibility and resources needed to make a real difference in this area. Finally, fully addressing the needs of orphans requires the U.S. advise and support other countries in the development of child welfare systems that offer permanency for orphaned children and the fact is the current infrastructure is not set up to engage in this level of diplomacy.




The Solution

The Families for Orphans Act (HR 3070; S 1458) proposes to overcome these barriers by establishing the Office of Orphan Policy, Diplomacy and Development, a specialized office within the U.S. Department of State. Headed by a specially appointed Coordinator, this new Office would be responsible for developing and implementing a comprehensive, evidence-based strategy to support the preservation of families and the provision of permanent families for orphans.

In addition, the Families for Orphans Act would:

* Create a Policy Coordinating Committee to help better coordinate interagency efforts on behalf of orphaned children.


* Grant support for non-governmental organizations that are providing technical assistance to and support for foreign governments' family preservation and permanent parental care programs.

* Provide funding for countries to use to develop and meet minimum standards in family preservation, reunification and the provision of permanent parental care for orphans.


* Launch the "Global Best Practices Pilot Program" to discover and replicate best practices.


(Source: http://www.kidsave.org/)

Community Expo

On January 31, AV4HC had the opportunity to attend Bartlett's 3rd annual Community Expo. Thanks to those of you who stopped by! The expo provided an excellent opportunity to raise awareness about adoption, foster care, Safe Families and orphan care, and to connect with the community. I want to say a special thanks to Holly Koehler for creating the display board for this event, and for future events as well.

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy. Proverbs 31:8

Oregon Considering Replicating Safe Families Model

The following is taken from the Christian Alliance for Orphans blog. 1/5/2010. (http://christianallianceblog.org)

We’ve shared with you before on this blog about the remarkable “Safe Families” vision of Christian Alliance for Orphans’ member Lydia Homes, led by Dr. David Anderson, in Illinois. Dr. Anderson’s “Safe Families” model allows families on the verge of having their children taken by the state to voluntarily allow the children to be placed temporarily with volunteer families. Thus, it greatly reduces the number of children going into the state foster system, instead connecting these children (and often their parents, too) with a caring family that desires to help them through a difficult time and, ultimately, reunite as a healthy family. Last year, roughly 1,000 children were served by these volunteer “Safe Family” families in Illinois. Already, Alliance member organizations have begun to replicate this remarkable model in seven states. Now, the Oregon legislature is considering a bill that would authorize an official state pilot project of the Safe Families model in Oregon. This would enable caring families that wish to serve as “Safe Families” homes to do so. It’s also worth noting that Dr. Anderson will be presenting at Summit VI on how organizations and churches can replicate this model in their communities as well.

Safe Families/Foster Mom's Coffee

An Invitation.....

Who: Current or prospective Safe Families Foster Moms, DCFS Foster Moms, and Moms who are interested in playing a supporting role even if they are not fostering children themselves.

What: Come and enjoy a time of sharing foster care experiences and ideas.

When: Tuesday, February 9th, 9:30 a.m.

Where: The home of Sheila Applegate 1315 W Kenilworth, Palatine (847-323-0150)

R.S.V.P. Terri at Thooker@americandooranddock.com.

Children are welcome. Please mention how many children you are bringing, and their ages when you r.s.v.p.

Coffee, Tea and Pastries will be served.

U.S. Embassy in Haiti

Below are scenes from the U.S. Embassy in Haiti. The father/son pictured below slept on the floor for a week, waiting to be allowed to go home. They are arriving home today.
(source: www.watchingthewaters.wordpress.com)

Strong on Zeal, Thin in Knowledge

The following article is taken from Christianity Today Magazine, Feb. 3rd, 2010. www.christianitytoday.com

Strong on Zeal, Thin in Knowledge
Lessons from Haiti's arrest of American Christians trying to take children out of the country.

Jedd Medefind posted 2/03/2010 09:56AM

Newswires buzzed recently with reports that a group of ten Americans from an Idaho-based Christian charity were arrested trying to transport 33 Haitian children into the Dominican Republic contrary to the rules of Haiti's government. Although details are still emerging, the story thus far suggests a potent mingling of good intentions with ill-advised plans. Fellow Christians embarrassed by the incident should have the grace to withhold the abuse many observers are now piling on the group, but we can still take a strong lesson on the need to match zeal with knowledge in every effort to "care for orphans in their distress."

According to their website, the group's goal was to "rescue Haitian orphans abandoned on the streets … and bring them to New Life Children's Refuge in Cabarete, Dominican Republic." This "Refuge" is at present a 45-room hotel the ministry leased to house the children as an interim measure. Ultimately, they planned to construct an orphanage that would provide long-term care, and also the potential of adoption for children that could not be reunited with relatives.
These rickety plans, along with the decision to remove the children from Haiti without approval, were a recipe for trouble. Adding further to the impression of sloppy do-goodism, it now appears that some of the children had living parents and were not in need of rescue at all.

Appropriately, many relief organizations have voiced strong concern over the incident. Meanwhile, others in the foreign aid world—which often tends to be dismissive of volunteer efforts and highly critical of international adoption—have sought to make the situation a cause célèbre. Private blogs and even some nonprofit websites now venture beyond the known facts, implying gross neglect of the children by the Christian group and even worse. No doubt some hope to harness the situation to foster broader criticism of adoption, and to emphasize the superiority of large-scale, government-centered models of aid to smaller acts of private charity.

Even as we apply strong words to the group's actions—"reckless" and "irresponsible" come to mind—we should first be reminded what this debacle does not tell us:

First, it does not tell us that Christians have the market cornered on well-intentioned but poorly-devised attempts at aid. Far from it. As writers like William Easterly and Dambisa Moyo lay out in disturbing detail, the history of efforts to help the needy—both government and private, religious and secular—is rife with failed largesse. A brief survey of public welfare programs in the U.S. alone would dwarf this situation in both size and foolishness for examples of benevolence gone awry.

Second, it does not tell us that compassion motivated by Christian faith is somehow peripheral to "real" disaster aid. Thousands of committed Christian organizations, churches and individuals—both foreign and indigenous—were effectively meeting deep needs in Haiti even before the earthquake. Today, these entities and recently arrived allies are central to relief efforts on the ground in Haiti, as are Christians in every catastrophe. The actions of a single small group certainly don't define the Christian response, nor should we feel embarrassed of our faith-inspired efforts in response to future disasters.

Finally, it does not tell us that the significance of adoption in caring for orphans should be marginalized. Although the press played up reports that the group had mentioned adoption to the U.S. as one potential way to eventually help some of the children, this was clearly not the group's primary focus. Nor could such adoptions have happened on any scale without massive amounts of U.S. and local paperwork, as any adoptive family knows. The group's errors to date were actually examples of on-the-ground orphan care gone wrong, not of mishandled adoptions. Yet no one is suggesting we should now shun orphan care, nor should they. The Christian community should stand strongly behind a full spectrum of in-country orphan care efforts, as well as the option of international adoption for children who'd otherwise grow up without families.

Amidst all this, what this situation does tell us is much more straightforward. Passion alone is simply not sufficient; it must be consistently paired with wisdom. Zeal without knowledge can be a destructive force. A compassionate impulse may indeed be God's nudging, and certainly should not be ignored. But the hard work of education, preparation, and planning most always stands between us and a job well done.

For those freshly woken to the needs of orphans, one other reminder will be helpful as well. Prior to the earthquake, Haiti had an estimated 380,000 children who had lost at least one parent. Tens of thousands lived in orphanages, on Haiti's streets, and as household slaves. These tragic situations are mirrored in many developing countries worldwide. So while the current crisis adds urgency to the biblical call to "defend the cause of the fatherless," the need to respond did not start with Haiti's latest anguish. Nor will it end when the television cameras no longer bring their images to mind.

Thus, in this moment—stirred as we are by Haiti's pain, and freshly reminded of the hazards of poorly-directed zeal—the most significant reminder is that knowledge-guided love is always needful. The emotion we're feeling is one that can be acted upon for the rest of our lives. Amidst the current crisis, we must help as best we can: giving generously, praying seriously, and even working on the ground alongside trustworthy organizations and local churches. Meanwhile, it's never too early to begin readying ourselves for a longer journey, joining passion with preparedness, and compassion with commitment, to serve wisely and well for the distance.

Jedd Medefind is President of the Christian Alliance for Orphans, which will host Summit VI in April 2010 to help churches and organizations seeking to engage in adoption and orphan ministry. He previously served as a Special Assistant to President George W. Bush and led the White House Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives.

"Speaking Out" is Christianity Today's guest opinion column and (unlike an editorial) does not necessarily represent the opinion of the magazine.

The Excuse

The following is taken from a family blog called Building the Blocks (http://buildingtheblocks.blogspot.com)

I've had my share of excuses in the past....
Too busy
Not enough money
Not enough time
Too young
Too old
Can't afford it
Already have 4 children
Not sure if it's God's will
Not sure
Can't afford it
What will others say?
What will others think?
People will think we are crazy
What if they are right?
Can't afford it.
What if it's hard on our other kids?
It's not the right time
Not sure if I would be good at it.
House is too small.
Can't afford it.
Not sure if I want to start all over again.
What would we drive?
What if it's to much work?
What if it's too hard?
Can't afford it.

Yet for every excuse God has the answer-
Him.

It's all about Him- period.

He must increase,
but I must decrease.
John 3:30

We limit God with our excuses.
We limit God with our fears.
We limit God by putting Him inside a box-
A box we have designed on our own.

But by doing this we are actually robbing ourselves-
robbing ourselves of the blessings.
Robbing ourselves of true joy
Robbing ourselves of truly living.

Because you see when we take 'us' out of the picture
Our worries,
Our fears,
Our excuses,
And we put God in the center of our lives
The possibilities are endless.

He has the way...
He IS the way...
And all you have to do is
stop making excuses and take that first step.
Stop listening to the world.
Stop being afraid of the what ifs-
And listen to the one who knows.
The one who has the answers.
The one who really matters.
The truth is
we don't have to be perfect
because He is.
We don't have to have all of the answers
because He already does.
We don't have to know how
because He will show us.
Each day you wait
is a day that they wait too...

The cost of your excuse is a lot higher than the cost of an adoption
because look at what it's costing them.

Stop making excuses.
They are waiting
And so is He...
To show you the way.